Saturday, August 15, 2015

Female Orgasm 101 and Fellatio 101 Classes!

Sexology Parties 
Female Orgasm 101 and Fellatio 101 

I have been promoting and fighting for sex positivity and sex education for awhile now and recently I traveled to San Diego for training to become a licensed Sex Educator, studying under the amazing Dr. Jill McDevitt! I am really excited to be able to bring this useful, fulfilling, and pleasurable knowledge to you! I will be teaching two of her most successful in-home parties: Female Orgasm 101 and Fellatio 101.

Sophia Wallace's "Thunder Clit" Stencil

Female Orgasm 101

75% of women have faked an orgasm. After this workshop- never again! Between the ice breaker game that will have you out of your seats and roaring with laughter, to the goofy demonstration with Nova the Vulva Puppet, from the myth busting section about the lies we've all been told (and still believe) about female orgasm, to the activity that past students say literally changed their life, it's no wonder this is one of the most popular Sexology Parties!

Female Orgasm 101 starring "Nova" the Vulva Puppet! 

 Fellatio 101

This party will help you turn blow jobs into blowfun! Have you ever wondered how to alleviate the gag reflex, how to avoid lockjaw, or if it's best to spit or swallow? Find out the answers to these questions and more! Participants will play games, learn important penis anatomy, and get to practice expert mouth, tongue, lip, and hand techniques on a carrot.

Fellatio 101 starring "Blaze" the penis pillow!

If you're looking for a fun exciting night with friends, family, an unforgettable bachelorette party, or just want to learn everything they didn't teach you at home or school, book a Sexology Party with me! Who said learning can't be fun!

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Sex Ed in this country

Whoa. There is a serious issue in this country when it comes to Sex Education [we knew that]. There isn't even regulations when teaching it, that is so detrimental to many! I can't belive that some of the videos and references are even real! How horrible. Wtfff... Even though this tried to be funny yet educational, they still used "vagina" instead of "vulva" which is very important when discussing Sex Education! Take the time to watch this. Education is power. ☆ This is great!!

Many if not all, Sexologists and Sex Educators have been saying these things for yearssssss! Pay Attention!

"There’s no way we would allow any other academic program to CONSISTENTLY FAIL to prepare students for life after school; and Human Sexuality unlike Calculus is something you ACTUALLY need to know about for the rest of your life!" - John Oliver [And every Sex Educator I know!]

"It's nice when something you've been screaming at the top of your lungs for a decade and everyone ignored is finally, suddenly, magically, touted as a genius when a guy say it in a comedy routine..." - Dr. Jill McDevitt 

Sexual Education is so important for you, your partner(s), and your life! ☆

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Tuesday, July 21, 2015

The Thunder Clit and Sexology Parties!

☆ I haven't written in a while so here are some updates!

Recently I received my "Thunder Clit " Stencils from the amazing Sophia Wallace!  I had so much fun spray painting and making sex positive art work! 

If you aren't familiar with her awesome movement I suggest you Get Familiar! 
Here is an awesome TedTalk video of her speaking, check it out! 

Also I am flying out to San Diego for training and education with the awesome Dr. Jill McDevitt! I will be teaching Female Orgasm 101 and Fellatio 101!  I couldn't be more excited. These are great Sexology Parties full of fun and useful information one can use to enjoy sex, oral sex, and self love! I absolutely love what I do and I can't wait to spread the sex positivity everywhere!

My awesome Vulva Puppet and I 

If you are interested in booking a party email me!

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Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Pittsburgh Pride 2015

 Pride in Pittsburgh! 

This year the Pittsburgh Pride reached a record number of attendees! [110,000] people came out to support and celebrate this community. There were all ages from young children to the elderly that came together for this very important celebration and awareness raising event. There was nothing but LOVE and that's all we need! 

A huge Thank you to Nick Jonas for performing due to the last minute Iggy Azalea drop out. Many protested her performance anyway due to her racist and homophobic statements. Nick is way better anyway! 

Sunday was soo much fun! I am so thankful for the Clarion Women's Rugby team [which I used to play for] for letting me walk with them in the parade! Everyone loved the sex positive shirt "Clit Tits and lots of Hips" which is why I gave so many away! ♡ 

What made the day even more special was being part of a surprise marriage proposal at the end of the parade, it was such an awesome feeling. I cried. They made signs and she said YES. I love seeing LOVE! ♡ Such a great time with awesome humans!

Marriage is not just a heterosexual privilege, it is a human right! Love is Love and I loooove seeing people in Love! ♡ 

Friday, May 22, 2015

Knowledge is Power - The Power of Female Sexuality ♡

I am a huge fan of hers. I am glad she agreed with me! 

Knowledge is power! We really need to understand the power we have, why else has it been hidden from us for so long?! Female sexuality and pleasure have been dismissed for centuries. It has been hidden, erased, and shamed. That needs to stop, there isn't any logic behind it! Our orgasm and pleasure is just as important as our partners. There isn't female sexuality without the clitoris and everyone needs to know and accept that! Women are sexual beings. And that is the way it is supposed to be! We need to learn to be a proud sexual being. If men can "brag" about their dick all day best believe I am going to brag about my clit! Unleash the power! 

It is going to take awhile to unlearn what we have been taught since childhood. We have been taught to be sorry for our actions, they way we dress, whether we wear make up or not, "not being a virgin", having sex with one or more people, why though?! [What makes a dick, the cream of the crop?!] Stop "being sorry"! Never be "sorry" for your sexuality. Never be "sorry" for the way you look or dress. Be you! Love yourself. We as women have to come together. We have to empower, uplift, and motivate our fellow sisters!

If we take the stigma away from certain words, we gain the power... "slut", "whore", "cunt", and "bitch" are just a few. Society and the double standards are ridiculous and sickening. Amber Rose is a perfect example of society and "slut shaming". Knock it off! The same men who attempt to degrade US are the same ones that seek validation trying to chase US. [Crazy huh] If you pay attention to the music, media, TV, and movies this will be made clear. As women we have to stick together and not fall into those traps. Don't support anything that doesn't support you. Also we need to make things clear and educate our children and family. Teach respect.

We are not "pieces of meat", no really, we have been referred to as that! We don't own anyone sex, period. Just because some men can't control themselves doesn't mean that as a woman I have to change the way I live my life. Rape and sexual assault is a HUGE issue in the US and the world. I can't believe the horror stories I hear. My heart goes out to all the victims, including myself. Many rapists never see a day in jail. This needs to change. Immediately. The fact that harassment isn't a compliment and that some men feel untitled to our body, is actually pretty scary! Speak up and educate the people you are around. Everyone needs to wake up! Remember never ever victim blame and always listen! 
I have the Rape Hotline listed in a previous blog if you or anyone you know needs it.

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Saturday, May 16, 2015

The "How To" on Masturbation for the Ladies.

Pleasure Sensations. 
Masturbation can come easy for some but for others it can be a bit difficult getting in the mood for self pleasure. And that is perfectly fine. There is nothing wrong with an awesome sensual warm up to get you in the mood and your juices going. 

I never knew anything about masturbation my first time, I winged it and failed. It felt good but my mind didn't know what to do, what to think, and I couldn't relax. I had never even had an orgasm so I didn't even know what to think. I didn't get discouraged,  I just took a different route. I took a nice hot shower and then started to read the "Sex Chronicles" by Zane and sheesh did that get my sexual imagination going. I got immediately turned on. So I turned on my vibrator and began. I tried different positions and different vibrator speeds until I found the best pleasure sensation. After a few minutes I had felt something I had never felt before, and I definitely wanted to feel it again. Hello Orgasm and Hurray for Masturbation! From that point on I would masturbate and learn my body, my sexual body. I learned how fast or slow my clitoris liked to be caressed and how she felt during high or low vibrations. The higher vibrations won her over. By learning what I enjoyed, I was able to tell my partner what do to and how to make me orgasm. Open communication in a relationship is crucial especially when it comes to pleasure. 

Okay, now that you know my story, I want to help you create a masturbation story of your own. 

Mind and Body Stimulation. 

Having a love affair with yourself is both mental and physical.  Love yourself and your body. Your vulva is beautiful. Your clitoris is beautiful. Know that. Repeat that to yourself. Now that you mentally love yourself let's start physically loving yourself. 

Take a hot shower or bath and rub your sexy body, slowly. Embrace and feel every touch and wonderful sensation you are receiving. Always take your time. Think of a pleasure-filled experience that will make her [your clitoris] tingle. Remember no one can hear what your thinking, no one knows or can judge your fantasy. It is completely yours. It is limitless. 

Light some candles, play some soft sensual music, turn on a good porno, read an erotic book, or retrieve hot memories from your "spank bank". None the less set the ambiance, your perfect ambiance.

Dry yourself off slowly perhaps in front of a mirror, dance a little. Take oil or lotion and tenderly rub your body. Give yourself a massage. Start from the top and work your way down saving your genitals for last. Take a little more time on your nipples, erect them.  Moving further down don't forget your stomach and hips, let the anticipation build.

Your clitoris is swelling and your vagina is wet. Wonderful. Caress your vulva. Hairy or shaved embrace her. Now open your lips. [Make sure your hand or fingers are moist, lube, spit, or your own wetness] Softly rub your clitoris. Up and down, in a circular motion, fast or slow, soft or hard... you be the judge.  Some women enjoy only clitoral stimulation to orgasm while others enjoy vaginal penetration as well. If you want to stimulate your vagina as well slowly slide a finger or two into your wet vaginal opening. Feel around, feel the warmth and wetness. Now that you have felt her, why not taste her?! Yum. Slid your finger into your mouth. What do you taste like? Repeat the steps that are pleasurable for you. 

The Touch.

You don't have use just your hands or fingers, there are various sex toys that are wonderful to use such as vibrators, dildos and bullets. Remember every woman likes different things, you know... "different strokes for different folks", either way enjoy your beautiful body. Never be ashamed of your sexuality.  
Timing can be an issue when trying get get some alone time. I say,  make some. You need to make some time for yourself. It is important for not only for your mental sanity but your sexual sanity. There is nothing wrong with self pleasure, it's sex with someone you love! So take some well deserved time and focus on pleasure, your pleasure and learn your sexy body.

Grab your favorite Vibrator. 

I asked some men and women what they do to get in the mood when it comes to self love here are some of the raw and real responses I got...

☆ Oh girl lol. I watch porn. Depending on my mood is what I search for & then find a good video.

☆ I either read or I look at Twitter porn gifs or a little porn 

☆ A "sure fire" song for me is "Would You Mind" by Janet Jackson.  I turn into a whole different person when I hear that song. 

☆ I love porn! Nothing like finding that perfect movie or scene and creating your own pleasure with every sexual camera angle. Or sound adjusting moan. There's nothing sexier then being able to touch your self to the visual of your dreams! To have your fantasy make you explode! And by watching someone fuck who loves to be watched makes me love to be watches.

☆ I reach into my "spank bank" 

☆I turn on a good porno,  celebrity porno is my favorite.  I also like watching women squirt. 

☆I relax and get out my favorite vibrator. I play with my clit for a few minutes then stop. Then I start again, I do this a few times to build up the anticipation,  then I have a huge orgasm and I love it. 

However you get into the mood for masturbation just know that no one but you knows your fantasies. Love yourself. Enjoyyy your orgasm. 

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Saturday, May 9, 2015

The Clit is the Shit!

The Clit is the Shit! 


It is CLITORIS AWARENESS WEEK [May 6th through the 12th] so it only seems right to shine some light on this pleasure piece .

This week is dedicated to helping the victims of genial mutilation around the world. Yes, unfortunately in some countries around the world women are required to get their clitoris cut off [Horrible, I know]. Turns my stomach. Donate to Clitoraid if interested in helping this great cause. I can't even imagine living life without one!

I don't want to focus on the negative... We need to give the CLITORIS the shine she deserves! For being the only body part with one sole purpose of PLEASURE she needs to be celebrated! Celebrate her with pride!

The Clitoris can be easily over looked due to it not having any reproductive purpose. Says who?! I believe it has an awesome reproductive purpose, pleasure during the sexual experience for the woman. In high school, my health class or any other class never talked about the clit. Never. Then again they didn't discuss much of anything that mattered when it came to sex. Many men and women are unfamiliar it and now I know why. I had to take a Human Sexuality course in college to discover this awesome pleasure organ. Why did the world hold out on me so long!? 

When in the womb the penis and clitoris are made up of the same tissue and develop into which ever part based on the sex of the fetus. So there's more than meets the eye for us females.

This sensitive female organ has 8,000 nerve endings which is double what the penis has! Go us! When stimulated the clitoris can send pleasure waves up and down your spine awakening your deepest sexual pleasures. The clit is more than just a " magical button" or "sensitive numb" it goes deeper inside the female body in the shape of a wishbone. It's like buried treasure! So by stimulating the whole Vulva area it gets the  clitoris' blood pumping and the juices flowing. Now we are having some fun! 

I love the Clitoris so much, I bought a Clitoring!  

Many women need clitoris stimulation to orgasm. I repeat... Many if not all women need clitoris stimulation to orgasm, so don't neglect her, rub, flick, lick, and vibrate on! During sex the size of the clitoris can matter, the bigger or closer the clit is to the vaginal opening the easier it is to orgasm. Which is also why different sex positions matter and some feel better than others. If the position you are in gives you little clitoral stimulation there's nothing wrong with giving her a little pleasure yourself. Feeling your own warmth and wetness can be a great turn on.  Happy rubbing!

Every female has a different and unique clit. No two look the same. If you don’t know what yours looks like I suggest you grab a mirror and check her out, your vulva too! Hell, make it a date with your partner and look together. Your partner should know just as much as you. Trust me it will make for a better sexual experience! Don't be afraid,  your pleasure is just as important as theirs.

I suggest you get like this! 

Positive vulva, clitoris, and vaginal self image leads to a greater sexual desire, better orgasms, more lubrication and arousal. Love your vulva. Love your clitoris.  Be a proud vagina owner! Never be ashamed of your female sexuality! 

For many women, her clit likes to be licked, touched, and caressed. I've heard that unfortunately many men don't know what to do with her... and that's a huge problem to me! But that's for a different blog. Pussy Eating blog coming next! Haha 

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Saturday, May 2, 2015

Don't hate, Masturbate! ☆ Happy National Masturbation Month!

Don't hate, Masturbate! 

May has come and so should you! May is National Masturbation Month!

Back in 1994 -1995 during Bill Clinton's presidency, Joycelyn Elders was the Surgeon General. She spoke up about sex education and her feelings towards masturbation stating "As per your specific question in regard to masturbation, I think that is something that is a part of human sexuality and it's a part of something that perhaps should be taught. But we've not even taught our children the very basics".  Clinton didn’t like her open minded view on sex education and masturbation. Later that year she was forced to "resign" as the Surgeon General. How ironic coming from a man getting his dick sucked by Monica while married to Hilary. Soo I guess no masturbation for you mister president? 

The well known sex positive, sex goods company Good Vibrations got wind of this and took action. In 1995 they declared May as National Masturbation Month and awesomely enough it has grown to International Masturbation Month! Yippy! 

Let's dig in...

What do you call it?...
Choke your chicken
diddle your skittle
rub one out
self love
flick your bean
pet the kitty

Masturbation is defined as the sexual stimulation of one's own genitals usually to the point of orgasm. You can use a number of items to masturbate with such as your hand or fingers, sex toys, vibrators or dildos, or even a cucumber. Masturbation is somewhat of a taboo topic due to religious beliefs, personal choices, and different cultural up bringings. Luckily over the years these taboos have declined because of the media exposure it is getting. 

☆I was one of those people. My up bringing never discussed this topic, ever. It wasn't until college that I even learned what an orgasm was. I went to one of "those" parties, you know the ones that talk all about sex toys and I bought my first vibrator, a white and pink light up vibrator. I had never used one before. I tried it a few times but could never seem to hit that spot or orgasm. One day after a long day of classes I went home and took a nice long hot shower. I relaxed and tried to unwind after having such a busy day. I decided to try again and holy shit... soo this is what everyone was talking about! Sheesh! I had my first orgasm! Needless to say I fully support masturbation!  Haha 

There are many benefits that are associated with masturbation. 1. It is good mentality and physically for our health. 2. Masturbation can boost your self esteem and make you feel good about your body and sex. 3. It also is the safest form of sex, you don't have to worry about STD'S or pregnancy, you can focus solely on the pleasure.  4. Masturbation is one of the best ways we can learn about our own sexuality. By exploring your own body you can learn your likes and dislikes with the different sensations. If you can't make yourself orgasm, how can you tell/show your partner how to make you orgasm!? 5. It is a great stress reliever. Those are only naming a  few!

Relax. Enjoy yourself. More blogs on masturbation coming soon! #exxxiteme

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Thursday, April 23, 2015

Collecting Feminine Menstrual Periods.

Getting your period can be a dreaded time of the month but for homeless women that is an understatement. Reading the stories of these women is heartbreaking. That is why I will be putting together baskets and donations of products that will help [pads, tampons, menstrual cups, body wash, and other feminine menstrual products]. Donating all the items to the local Women's shelters in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. 

The last day will be May 22nd. 

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Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Clit Tits and lots of Hips! [T-shirt]- ExxxiteMe

Sprinkling SEX POSITIVITY and POSITIVE BODY IMAGE everywhere!  I love being a proud CLIT owner with lots of hips! Ladies show your pride! Whoop whoop!  

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☆$25 plus all purchases receive a Free sperm keyring! ♡ 

Thursday, April 2, 2015

GYT. Get Yourself Tested.

STD'S affect people of all ages especially young people. You can't tell just by looking at someone if they have one or not. Many have STD'S and don't know it because there isn't any symptoms. The sooner you find out the sooner you can protect yourself and your partner. Preventing, testing for, and treating STD'S is pretty straight forward. Talk to your doctor. Talk to your partner. Don't be ashamed or afraid. Get checked frequently. #exxxiteme

Your sexual health is so important for not only you but your partner and family. I have heard horrible stories about how STD'S can ruin a family or relationship.

》A mother used a washcloth to was her entire body, she had a STD and did not know it. Her young 7 year old daughter used it shortly after her and gave herself her mother's STD which was a parasite! Trichomoniasis.  Sickening!

》A faithful woman was given Genital Warts from her cheating partner. Now she can never have a vaginal birth in fear that she could pass that on to her baby.

》Another faithful woman was given multiple STD'S from her cheating partner. She didn't know it. When they broke up she passed them on to her new partner. They broke up. [ you see how easy they can spread?!]

》A faithful man was given an STD from his cheating spouse, it went untreated for so long that now he has fertility complications.

 [ ] for testing centers.

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Love yourself. Protect yourself. ♡
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Sunday, February 8, 2015

Love Crave - VESPER

Love Crave - Vesper

I follow [ @lovecrave] on Instagram. I was checking out their page when I came across a necklace, but this was no ordinary necklace.  It was simple yet exotic. A stainless steel Vibrator that would hang from my neck... ooh what a conversation piece! I ordered it. 

I was skeptical of how strong the vibrations would be. I am a power queen. High vibes only! Ha This necklace for being small and simple packed a punch. 4 settings low med high and pulsating. Now I will be using this as jewelry more than a sex toy. 

The only thing I would change is the length of the necklace longer. I have big boobs, the vibe gets lost in the goodness if not careful. But other than that I love it! 


Sex in Red [Period love]

Sex in Red.

Sex while menstruating may seem to many as a "Hell No" sex act. However some say a man is not a man until he has "gotten some blood on his sword" Haha 

There are both pros and cons to having sex while on your period however the pros outweigh the cons! Whoop whoop for more sex! 

When mother nature comes knocking on my door, I used to get upset and depressed,  thinking it was dirty and very unattractive but as I gained knowledge I changed my way of thinking. It is natural for a woman, it is apart of the beauty and essence of that woman, that Queen. I am proud to be a woman and I embrace everything that comes with it.  Which is sex on my period...

I have run into mixed feelings about it from men and women. Some are all for it and some thinking it's an absolute "Hell No". But many women said they get increasingly hornier when they are on their period, I agree. I wanted to know why... your sex drive increase due to the hormone changes. The changes in hormones during your period increase the cravings for sex and enjoyment of sex, so we are uber sexually sensitive!


Being super sexually sensitive increases your want for sex and the enjoyment out of it. 
Orgasms believe it or not can shorten your period! Hell yeah! ORGASM ORGASM ORGASM! The muscle spams from the orgasm squeeze and force out the blood faster which shorten the duration of your period and also help your period cramps. No one likes cramps or a long period! These orgasms release endorphins and other feel good hormones that better your mood as well!  So if you're feeling down, bust one!

There is more lubrication [obviously]. Many have said that natural lubrication is not enough but you won’t have that problem with this when a woman is on her period. This increased lubrication makes the sex better for both involved. The wetter the better! 


It is a mental thing. Many get grossed out by blood [which is natural] but if you can get over that fact it will be worth it. It washes off. Duh.
This type of sex is very messy so put a towel underneath where all the action will take place or have tissues handy. Avoid "riding" gravity is not your friend right now, the missionary position is best. Period sex in the shower would be best due to the minimal clean up that would necessary. 
Still continue to use the birth control and protection methods you use, HIV and other STD'S travel in blood. 

Now oral sex is a different story. That can be a messy topic haha it is a 100% personal choice. I suggest not on your heavy flow days. 

Regardless of your period,  I suggest you Orgasm a lot when on! ♡ If your partner says "No" your toy will never let you down! Xoxo

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Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Stay Fresh My Friends ☆

A clean dick is a must.
A clean pussy is a must.

Now that we got that out of the way, Hygiene is so important. No one wants to get all hot and heavy and smell something that instantly ruins the mood. When I am about to give a blow job, suck dick, or whatever you call it, if I smell something nasty, game over for you buddy! Shower. Clean up. Have some respect for the person about to give you an amazing orgasm! Ladies, when you know you're about to get some face all in it, tongue swirling head... Clean her! Make her fresh and tasty... you know... finger lickin good! 

Your nose is one of the most powerful sex organs! Smells can turn a person on! I know when a man/woman walks by and I smell some awesome goodness, she tingles a little. Haha 

Cleaning the ever so picky pussy with a mild soap and warm water is the healthiest way to go. If she continues to have a horrible odor,  I suggest you get her checked out immediately. Ladies, be a proud owner of your vagina and take care of the power you possess. Fellas, wash your dick and jewels with warm water and a mild soap as well. Be a proud owner of your dick and balls. Take pride in your penis. If that odor still persists get a check up too! 

No one likes a smelly person. Yuck.

Stay Fresh my Friends.